Since nobody reads this blog, like literally nobody, I haven’t worried about putting on it anything that I haven’t first discussed with my wife. It was more like I would write stuff and then discuss it with her afterward. But now it occurs to me that I absolutely don’t want to be in a situation where somebody else reads about something before she hears about it.
In that light, I talked to her about this first.
In the 70s, probably the 80s too, there was an advertisement, or something, that showed up in most dirty magazines, about the “orgasm gap.” I feel like it was about how men come in 2 minutes and women take longer, leading to women not coming. Which I’m sure is a thing and if you duckle (this is like *oo*ling but using https://ddg.co) for “orgasm gap” you’ll still get lots of results, so I guess it’s a phrase that a lot of people still use. So maybe you can see this coming (ha ha): the opposite happens to us. When you have a sex partner who comes every minute maybe you can’t always keep up.
So this happened the other night: after like 90 minutes, maybe two hours who knows, I came. Did I say this before? I usually try to hold back because the desire is fun, and dissipates after I come. I may get super-close and pre-come a couple times … I feel like that dissipates the desire a little but it’s the real ejaculation that shuts me down. At that point, I can keep going, but it takes a little more effort and I can’t keep her as interested. The result is, I’ll get her going, and that gets me going, but she comes three or four times and then kind of needs a break, and I’m not hard yet so I can’t finish and we’re done and have to start over. So I’m OK with it because I like getting her off, but the other night it did get annoying. Like 20-30 minutes of me trying to get going, her relaxing and really reveling in the attention, but shutting down every time I was just getting going.
We talked about this afterward. “Sweetie, up until I came that was like the best ever, but after that you were a bit annoying.” Her response was awesome: “well, it’s not MY fault!” I’ll take it.
Edit April 13, 2023: I’ve never been happy about the last line of this post, or the last three words anyway. It was lazy. I what I mean and what is entirely unclear is what she meant, which is or less, “when we have sex we do everything I want, when I want it. If that doesn’t work for you, clearly you did something wrong.” And I agree.
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