I’m not sure I’ve mentioned this before, but chocolate can make her come. Sometimes in the middle of a session we’ll want to munch something. Typically it’s either Asher’s Chocolate-covered Grahams (there are affiliate links in this article), Ghirardelli bittersweet chocolate chips, a chocolate bar of some kind, or truffles or other chocolate treats from a local high-end chocolate shop.
That local shop is really spectacular. It’s a very unassuming-looking place, in a regular old strip mall. But she makes her truffles from the best chocolate. I think she said it’s the same stuff that Neuhaus uses, but maybe she said some other top Belgian maker and I just got confused. And she has a really good sense of taste, that leads to occasionally doing things differently. Like her almond bark is made with raw almonds, which is weird in your first bite but then super-addictive afterward. When I eat other almond bark now it just feels wrong. I mean, she also makes it out of super-fine chocolate, but specifically the almonds are wrong in other almond bark. Basically, she’s really talented and she uses the best ingredients, so there really isn’t better stuff out there.
It honestly doesn’t matter much what kind of chocolate she munches on, but none that we eat is really cheap. Ghirardelli and Asher’s are at least two steps up from Hershey’s, and she says it’s easier with the high-end chocolate from the shop, so she’s pretty sure bad chocolate wouldn’t work. Otherwise, mainly she just has to get it in the right place, which is a spot on the side of her tongue (there are two actually–one on each side). She puts a little piece of chocolate there, lets it slowly dissolve, and comes, maybe 2-3 times per chocolate chunk.
She’s not touching anything else during the process. There are no hands on any erogenous zone. She’s not crossing her legs or otherwise squeezing things down there. She says she does tense up her muscles down there–she calls it “clenching”–and with the chocolate in the right place that’s all she needs. Similar to the electrical connection between her nipples and her clit, there’s another line from these spots to her clit. She says the connection is direct; the chocolate there directly stimulates her clit.
Usually I leave her be during these moments. I’m probably munching on chocolate, too. Thursday night, though, I munched on her tasty little pussy while she was eating some very fine chocolate from the local store. I’m not sure why it never occurred to me to do this before, except that it seemed unnecessary. But of course in sex “unnecessary” often means “worth trying.” And it was well worth it.
I’ve been on fire with the pussy licking lately. Just really creative–making tons of different patterns that get her off in new ways. They don’t all work all the time (and some only work some of the time) but usually I can tell pretty quickly if it’s catching on, and if not, try something else.
I’ve been wanting to say something about cunnilingus depicted in porn. It’s not well done most of the time. They want you to see the action, so they have the licker use just tongue, from a distance, a lot of the time. That’s fun but I do it mainly to tease. When she’s just had a big one, and she’s starting to recover, I’ll just touch the tip of her clit with the tip of my tongue and flick or jiggle or whatever works. She might just come, or if not she’ll start bucking and whining and begging because she wants more. Then I can hold off on that for a beat, like I’m not going to do it, and just a couple seconds later, after she thinks she’s not getting it, I go in for the kill and she’ll come hard, immediately.
Other than that I might use only my tongue if I’m doing long, hard licks, from slit up to clit. But even then, when she’s getting closer to coming (which only takes 20 seconds, probably) I pretty much settle into mashing the meaty part of my tongue onto her clit, which would impede the view of any camera.
What I do most of the time is take my whole mouth, wrap my lips around the area of her clit, suck her clit up into my mouth, and flick and mash it with my tongue, or bite and stroke it with my teeth, or a combination of the two. Again, you wouldn’t be able to see much, except maybe my cheeks going in and out with the suction.
So what I’m saying is don’t watch porn to try to get better at clit chomping. You only get a small part of the story, most of the time. I should say I have seen two-girls porn where the one has her whole mouth on the other’s clit, and there are well-known male actors and cammers who probably do a fine job.
My final topic for today. We had some communication problems last night. Primarily my fault. She was tired before I was, and didn’t get as high as she likes. So a couple times, she kind of stopped moving while I was fucking her. Especially when she’s facing away from me, I have trouble distinguishing a few possibilities in this case:
1) She’s about to come and has kind of frozen up in anticipation.
2) She’s fine with what I’m doing, and in her head she thinks we’re fucking as usual, even though she’s gone still.
3) She’s fine with what I’m doing but it’s not really working for her.
4) She’s not feeling good, is shutting down, and is waiting for me to notice and react.
If it’s #1, I have to keep going. If it’s #2, all is good except that it’s indistinguishable from #4. If it’s #3, I can stop or I can keep going until something catches for her. If it’s #4, I have to stop. The problem is, I’m optimistic and if it’s #1, I want to keep going but also not to distract her with conversation, because that will ruin her orgasm. So then I keep going for a little while and that eventually becomes unpleasant for both of us if it’s #3, or downright gross if it’s #4.
I don’t want her to “allow” me to keep going. I want her to be having fun the whole time. If it’s a brief interlude between exciting periods, that’s no problem for me. If she’s really just not having fun, that’s an immediate and complete turn-off. Now, sometimes she doesn’t know the difference between #3 and #4. Sometimes they’re connected, right? You’re on #3 for a little while and you think you might be feeling it more any second; or maybe you cross the line to #4 but it’s gradual–there’s no specific moment at which you’d tell your partner to take a break. The problem is, I tolerate it less well than her. I need to just stop, or ask, the very first moment I suspect it’s #4.
As soon as I ask, we’ll be done temporarily. But better to recover from that, than that plus a minute of me fucking her while she’s in pain or turned off.
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