It’s been a few weeks since I posted. I’ve had a lot of thoughts about what to write but not a lot of motivation to do so. Work has been hard etc. Anyway I want to return to what this blog is for, which is something like “I want our children to know that they can have good sex their whole lives.”
So here are some actual sex tips, mixed into a bit of history, in bullet point fashion. I’m going to assume this is hetero sex and use those pronouns because that’s the only style I have any experience with.
* I always thought I was good at sex, but I wasn’t very good.
* I didn’t use my mouth enough.
* I got into regular habits with each of my sex partners and rarely talked about doing anything differently or figuring out other things we liked. I think this meant often that we both thought the other didn’t want to do anything differently.
* Talk to your partners, try different things, try them again in different ways.
* Now, for cunnilingus. Bite the clit gently and flick the tip of your tongue back and forth across it really fast. Smash the clit with your tongue, hard, and rub up and down, not necessarily in the same action (i.e. go up up up up until she comes, and then go down down down, or mix it up).
* Act like you are having the time of your life, and you actually will because she will squirm and buck and make you feel like a man.
* Lap up that delicious juice and spread it around. Move your lips and your tongue in every possible different way and when you hit one, repeat, repeat, repeat. Repetition is good for a clit when it’s doing something it likes.
* Also, use your hands. Potentially at the same time as you’re licking and chomping. Put two fingers in just a little bit, opening the entrance. Put two fingers in deeper, past the bend, and press upward. Put two fingers in as deep as they’ll go–when she’s ready.
* Slam away with four fingers, if she’s like that sometimes.
* When you’re getting oral sex. Try not to move too much, some of the time. She’ll be able to learn how to take you deeper if you aren’t wriggling around or jabbing away and causing trouble.
* Then if you want to jab away, do it gently, not going deep at all, and see how she likes it.
* You want to be in a situation where sometimes you can take control and dominate. You can only do that if a) it’s a one-night stand and you’re essentially role-playing or b) you really trust each other.
Also, I got an incredible blow job the other night. Oh my g-d, she is getting so good at them. She did me for a couple minutes early in the night, then about 2 hours in, when we needed to get to bed (I had to get up early so we had agreed this would not be a major marathon), she did me again for at least 5 minutes and I was like, hmm, I can let this be the end of the evening. I EXPLODED. Not on her.
Leave a Reply